This column may be of a different caliber than usual, however, without this realization in life that “our focus must be on becoming better individuals,” we will not achieve success and peace in any part of life.
One of my biggest desires as a motivational speaker and writer is to see people become better individuals realizing their value and worth and living it out to its full potential. There is truly nothing sadder than watching the life of an individual live in constant turmoil and dissatisfaction with everyone and everything in their life.
I am greatly saddened by what I see escalating in today’s society-people settling for less than they were meant to be without identifying what is keeping them from achieving this goal. My heart has been especially burdened by some recent news stories and the condemning comments of those voicing their opinions. One thing I see as the greatest obstacle in discovering an individual’s purpose and life happiness is this—more time is focused on the lives of what other people are doing or not doing instead of what they could be doing.
This is one of the biggest distractions of the enemy creating the most havoc and keeping people from a life of purpose and peace. When lives are constantly focused on excuses for actions, reasons for approval, opinions, and judgment of others there is absolutely no room for advancement of an individual’s purpose in life. Society is quick to categorize the sins of others, judging and pronouncing due punishment. It is true sin must meet punishment, but is it man’s opinions that justify the outcome?
Jesus said, “They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Those who found their purpose years ago and find their purpose today are those whose focus is on looking at and evaluating themselves and repenting of their own shortcomings. These are the people who God moves forward from complacency to directive purpose. These are real, transparent people who know they don’t have what it takes without God’s strength and intervention. They make mistakes, confess them, are forgiven them and a life of failure is turned to life with a future.
Matthew 21:28-32 shows us this very application, “What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard. ‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went. “Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go. “Which of the two did what his father wanted?” The first,” they answered. Jesus said to them, “Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you. For John came to you to show you the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes did. And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.”
Many are those who are products of their past making choices based on what they experienced as a child. It is the tactic of the enemy to weaken them into questioning their true identity. True identity of every human being is this- you are loved, you are called, you are able. When someone steps out of the shadows of codependency, leaning on the approval of others, they often move to the far side of the spectrum into total independence, believing they are strong enough to make it on their own, the result will always be failure. Codependency creates bondage, while independence creates loneliness both causing a downward spiral of defeat.
Perfect balance is found in dependency on Christ, which perfects, equips and moves us upward in purpose and peace.
It must be remembered that all success and happiness comes first from evaluating your innermost heart and discovering who you are, shortcomings and all. Once someone faces their shortcomings and learns why they think the way they do, they can then start the process of healing and move forward into a life of completeness.
Judgment imprisons the one judging more than it does the condemned. For the one who can be honest with himself is the one who can secure a future of favor despite their failures.
Although we each have specific calls on our lives, the one purpose we all have in common is this- we are called to love the sinner not the sin.
Love cannot be expressed by condemnation and opinions, but by a love that speaks, “I want to see you succeed; I want to see you healed; I want you to be blessed and happy.” When this can be spoken with truth and empathy, an individual’s life purpose becomes visible as they have discovered what it truly means to love with the love of Christ.
On Tuesday from 6-9 p.m., I will be at the, “Once in a Wifetime, Once in Manhood,” monthly meeting @ Logan’s Roadhouse in Madison with host Tiffany Love.
On July 12 from noon until 2 p.m., I will present the program, “Changing Your Financial Future Through Couponing,” at the Destiny Center at 1510 Memorial Blvd. in Murfreesboro.
Ann Haney is homeschool mother of 18-plus years to six children, including four entrepreneurs, CEO of Aaron Publishing, founder of Ann Haney Ministries and Living In Abundance, nationwide motivational speaker, coupon specialist, empowerment coach and best-selling author of 18 published products, including her books, “Exploding Into Successful Entrepreneurship” and “Single Steps In A Married World.” Contact Ann at firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule a speaking engagement, individual coaching or view her website for more information at annhaney.com.