This year, my thoughts are extremely focused on making changes and being all I can be in 2014. From decisions as basic as shopping to long-term life-changing choices, my goal is to do more and stress less.
Just when we set our goals and begin our journey of commitment our lives can be filled up quickly with unexpected challenges, delays and general busyness. Often, those challenges can come through other people and their beliefs of what we should or should not do with our lives.
Recently I attended an Arbonne meeting after joining about two months ago. I got hooked on the body firming cream – great for stretch marks. At this meeting, a lady was speaking about her decision-making step to begin the Arbonne journey. This lady had more character and wit than most and was a delight to listen to.
Upon closing her speech, she made this statement that gripped my heart. “When I began this business I was criticized and laughed at behind my back. As you can see I am not a size 2, and what you’d expect for an Arbonne consultant. I almost gave up my dream that day as tears ran down my face. But, to this day I am thankful that I didn’t allow others to steal my dream.”
Wow. This totally impacted me, almost to tears. Most of us at some point and time in our lives have experienced the cruel words of someone that had the power to disable our dreams. She was a testimony of one who didn’t quit.
In thinking about her story I thought of the many men and women whose lives are full of hopes and dreams, but are often brought to a point of discouragement because they are looking at all the opposition and listening to all the pessimists. The reality is, you can accomplish anything you commit yourself to with enthusiasm. When desire dies the goal is never reached, but as long as you see with your heart and not your eyes you will accomplish what you have desired.
Are you looking for a promotion this year? Are you planning a family vacation? Maybe you have decided to enter a new career in 2014. How about saving three months living expenses? You might have decided, this is the year you will cut your grocery bills by 50 percent. Whatever your goal, I ask you, “Who is your goal keeper?”
Are you guarding your own goals or are you stepping aside and letting opposition shoot down your dreams? Opposition comes in many forms. Experience and evaluation will help you uncover those opponents and stop them before they take hold of your goal.
Here are some tips for being your own goal keeper:
• combat negative criticism by positive speech.
• read self help books on succeeding and self improvement.
• think about what you hope will happen not what you fear could happen.
• write down your goals, both long term and short term.
• write down your opponents. What threatens your ability to accomplish your goals?
• network with others who have goals. A person void of dreams will drain others.
• trust in the one who placed the dream in your heart. You’ve heard the saying, “If God brought you to it, He’ll get your through it.” This works for good as well as challenge.
• praise kills pessimism. If you mouth is filled with thankfulness there is no room for complacency.
• be careful who you let on the playing field with you. In other words, don’t share your dream with everyone. If they get to close to your goal with you, jealousy can bring a temptation to overtake what was meant for you. This is not to be greedy, but each has a call and when we try and operate in someone else’s call we will meet defeat and dishearten the ones we are involved with.
• put on your tough skin. A goal keeper must be properly suited to take the hits of rejection, disappointment and delay. But, when the game is over you will have kept your goal safe and reached victory.
On Jan. 25 from 9 a.m. until 3 p.m., I will be at the Nashville Women Empowerment Workshop at the Entrepreneur Center in Nashville. For more information, visit nashvillewomensempowerment.com.
Ann Haney is homeschool mother of 17-plus years to six children (four entrepreneurs), CEO of Aaron Publishing, founder of Ann Haney Ministries and Living In Abundance, nationwide motivational speaker, coupon specialist and author of 18 published products, including her book “Exploding Into Successful Entrepreneurship.” Contact Ann at email@example.com to schedule a speaking engagement and view her website for more information at annhaney.com.