4:00 PM Nov 23, 2015
Bill has been taking a class on the science of happiness.This past week covered the topic of gratitude. A recent study by Giacomo Bono, California State University, Dominguez Hills, and Jeffrey Froh, Hofstra University, found that, “Gratitude played an important role in many areas of positive mental health of the teens in our study. Increases in gratitude over a four-year period were significantly related to improvements in life satisfaction, happiness, positive attitudes and hope.”
2:00 PM Nov 15, 2015
When music lovers hear an appealing song on the radio, they often turn to the Internet to search for lyrics. It’s a sign of their devotion to the written word. These folks love language, a great turn of phrase, a unique use of a word. They want to read the story behind the song.
4:00 PM Nov 7, 2015
Sometimes we dads feel like we toil in the garden of the unknown. We’re not sure how deep to plant, how often to water, how to fertilize, or when to cultivate. In The Merchant of Venice, Shakespeare writes, “It is a wise father that knows his own child.” But how do we know our teen and how do we respond?
2:00 PM Nov 2, 2015
To begin with, it depends on how distant your relationship is right now. If your teenager is sure you have leprosy, then you will need to exert more effort than if he or she thinks your irrelevant ideas are contagious.
6:00 PM Oct 26, 2015
Dad, we bet you can remember your role models in grade school.
4:00 PM Oct 19, 2015
This column in our bullying series owes its inspiration and expertise to “An Interview with a Former Bully,” by writer Donna Smith.
2:00 PM Oct 12, 2015
We’ve all seen examples of bullying at school and on the streets. Some of our children have experienced it firsthand.
3:00 PM Oct 5, 2015
Bill and his son recently attended a talk by the Dalai Lama. It was a rare opportunity to engage in a “buddy trip” and receive some inspiration from a man who many would call one of the great spiritual leaders of the world.
2:00 PM Sep 28, 2015
School days are here again. When school teachers ask for help today, many are really wanting to know how mentally and emotionally to survive the day. In some cases, knowing the subject matter is secondary to managing crowd control. A friend of ours works across the street from a “last stop” high school for children who have been booted out of their original school.
12:00 PM Sep 21, 2015
We live in an age when bucking authority can lead to lethal results. As humans, we like to call the shots, be in charge, live outside the boundaries, take liberties and avoid consequences. All this in spite of the fact that most of us require guidance and occasional reining in.
6:00 PM Sep 14, 2015
Do you remember when you could find well-known adults you’d be glad to introduce as a good role model to your teen? It seems like there are very few left. So many pop stars, politicians, business leaders and sports figures are all failing the test of being effective role models.
6:00 PM Sep 7, 2015
Tom Tozer and Bill Black are authors of Dads2Dads: Tools for Raising Teenagers. Like them on Facebook and follow them on Twitter at Dads2Dadsllc. They are available for workshops. Contact them at tomandbill@Dads2Dadsllc.com
4:00 PM Aug 31, 2015
Dad, we’ll start by stating the obvious—your health is important. Your No. 1 job is to be an effective parent and role model.
4:00 PM Aug 24, 2015
In his bestselling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey says, “Children desperately want to open up, even more to their parents than to their peers. And they will, if they feel their parents will love them unconditionally and will be faithful to them afterwards and not judge or ridicule them.”
8:00 PM Aug 17, 2015
Many of you dads out there will be teaching your son or daughter how to drive this summer. Your child will be anxious to exercise what teens believe is their God-given right to commandeer 2,000 pounds of machinery and experience his new world in a whirlwind. You may be the single voice of reason between desire and reality as your son or daughter navigates the DMV maze and finally smiles for the usually unflattering driver’s license mug shot.
12:00 PM Aug 10, 2015
Tom Tozer and Bill Black are authors of “Dads2Dads: Tools for Raising Teenagers.” Like them on Facebook and follow them on Twitter @dads2dadsllc. They are available for workshops. Contact them at tomandbill@dads2dadsllc.com.
2:00 PM Aug 3, 2015
CBS Evening News anchor Scott Pelley often closes his half-hour newscast with a positive, pick-me-up story. Often it’s reported by Steve Hartman in his feature called “On the Road.” The story is usually a heart-warmer, perhaps a reunion of long-lost family members, a youngster overcoming some dreaded disease by sheer determination or someone simply going the extra mile for someone else. The viewer can’t help but smile, and occasionally wipe a tear away.